Singles’ Perspective Sunday

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The Single Perspective

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By Kanefus R. Walker

Singleness: Are You Called or Choosing?

Have you ever wondered what your God-given purpose might be? Has it ever crossed your mind that your status as a single person may be a calling? Do you view singleness as a calling? 

Have you been in a relationship that appeared to be leading down a serious road and you opted out to remain single? If so, what made you choose the single life? Do you view singleness as a choice? 

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For years I saw myself, as many others do, having the societal life of a career, home, spouse and children. Maybe not necessarily in that order, but to have all of that, especially by the time I was 50-years-old.  Yet, with each passing year, my yearning for some of those began to diminish in many ways.  Sure, the little girl in me wanted my daddy to walk me down the aisle and give me away to the man of my dreams.  Yes, the young woman in me wanted to experience childbirth and motherhood and all of the great and not-so-good things that come with that role. 

My reality is, I am single at 50-years-old without the career, the home, the spouse or the children.  Guess what? That is truly okay.  And I had to get to the point of it being okay because it wasn’t always.  I have learned to appreciate this state and wake up each day attempting to make it better than the day before.  No every day is not roses and champagne but it is not doom and gloom either.  Do with it what you like.  Whatever is going to make where you are, where you need to be.

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It is a calling or choice? For me, I honestly haven’t found that out.  One of my favorite scriptures in the Bible is Philippians 4:11 which states Not that I speak in respect of want: for I have learned, in whatsoever state I am, therewith to be content.  We only get this one life so it is meant to be enjoyed.  So, as I go through the next leg of this journey as a solo act, maybe singleness as a calling or choice will be revealed.  Either way my goal is to be happy and that is definitely a choice.

Published by Lisa B.

I am a passionate educator, community volunteer, child advocate, and Christian blogger. I am a native of Harvey, Illinois who enjoys teaching first grade in Atlanta Public Schools. In my spare time, I enjoy attending hot yoga classes and working out. I am also a seller on Teachers Pay Teachers and love creating educational resources to share with others. I love living out my change lives through community outreach, global missions, education, and to bring life and light to the world through writing.

8 thoughts on “Singles’ Perspective Sunday

  1. This is a great word, K. K.! As a member of “the singles club”, I am sometimes perplexed as to why I am still single. Why me? In my “whoa is me” moments, I think why am I not deserving of companionship? Thank you for offering this wonderful perspective! The key is to be happy and content with the blessed life we are given . We don’t know what the future holds, but it’s important to appreciate every precious moment of this life, and be a blessing to others in all of our beautiful, single gloriousness!


    1. Hello, she thanks you! I am also single at 50 and have made a choice to embrace this season of my life and be content; living on assignment and in PURPOSE! Be blessed!!!


  2. GM KK, your post is very thoughtful. I’m single partly by choice. If there’s somebody out there for me it will be. My heart is open to the possibility. I’m still learning the difference of being alone vs being lonely. Covid has made me reevaluate my perspective on life & figure out what is priority for me at this time.


  3. I think singleness can be a calling for those given the desire of single mindedness twoard specific tasks, in which you would never fully be able to give yourself to a relationship because your heart belongs to your service.
    I also most definitely believe singleness is a choice. You can decide to be in a relationship anytime you like. That doesn’t mean that relationship is good for you.
    I too as I embark upon 40 have become comfortable in my singleness, especially as I become confident in who I am as an individual. Would I enjoy a partner to spend life with,yes. But I learned life is still enjoyable and fulfilling if I dont meet that person.


    1. Yes, I completely agree with you Jasmine. I will be 51 this month. I am enjoying life with renewed confidence in who I am. One CAN reach purpose without being married. Many blessings, Lisa


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